Ordeal of an American Woman, Married to a Muslim

by American Woman

07 May, 2008

 

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Name: Barry Kendall
Date: Tuesday May 06, 2008
Time: 18:23:51 -0700

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When he is at work take the children and get to an abused women's shelter. If you do not know where one is go to a phone booth and look one up in the yellow pages or go to the public library. The reference department there should be able to help you locate one.

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Name: Christian
Date: Tuesday May 06, 2008
Time: 19:57:25 -0700

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A church, any church, will also help you. They have contacts with shelters and help.

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Name:
Date: Tuesday May 06, 2008
Time: 20:13:29 -0700

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More proof that muslims never contribute anything positive wherever they go, only hatred, evil and death

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Name: To: Unknow From: Ibn Kammuna
Date: Tuesday May 06, 2008
Time: 20:16:19 -0700

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Dear Sister, your relationship with this man is unhealthy. He is taking advantage of you. You need to leave for your own sake as well as your children's sake. Many of the readers left and will leave suggestions to help you make a decision on what to do. I wish you and your children the best. Peace

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Name: Christian Man
Date: Tuesday May 06, 2008
Time: 21:15:18 -0700

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When he leaves for work, leave with your children and go to a church or a police station. And get a lawyer right away. Have the police contact your family. Do not be afraid for your economic situation. You have to start somewhere if you want to be free and it starts now. Once you are free, you can start working on your other problems. A lawyer should be able to help you request a court order to prevent him from even approaching you. Then file a divorce case and child support. If you keep being afraid of the economic consequences of your intended action, your will be remain in that situation forever.

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Name: vbv
Date: Tuesday May 06, 2008
Time: 23:14:57 -0700

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Let her tell Bush about it ,who proclaims from his 'pulpit' "Islam is a peaceful religion" and ask him not to spread such bullshit propoganda eyeing 'oil-money' to be had for the American companies in which he has substatial financial interests.Tear down the mask of hypocrisy "spreading democracy and freedom".Expose the duplicity and amorality of the American politicians who pontificate on 'human rights ,while they practice none with their smart bombs , against 'war crimes' while they try to hide their 'guantanamo bay' ,their POW conditions in the war-zone! They gave life and sustenance to the islamic fanatics in the name of defeating the soviets in Afghanistan ,now it is in the worst possible condition with war lords waiting to lay their hands on each other , waiting to butcher their puppet Hamid Karzai and his cohorts once the foreign troops leave Afghanistan! Some democracy and peace they have achieved,heh? They are stuck in Iraq and Afghanistan with their hands full with islamic fundamentalists having a field day ,while the common citizens are still in misery - they cannot find a dignified way out. It is going to be another defeat ,like in Vietnam, and this time they are going to be bruised really bad! Just what the arrogant and selfish Americans deserve- somebody should wake the king to tell him 'you are naked!'.

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Name: Mohammad
Date: Tuesday May 06, 2008
Time: 23:19:46 -0700

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If you have two children from a previous marriage, you had a car and a job, then you are not too young to know how to get rid of a husband (probably you have done it before). I honestly don't know why this story is on 'islam-watch.com'. Really guys, this is the best you can do to defame Islam? To publish an email from a women whose husband works 15 hours a day and doesn't allow his wife to wear short skirts? Amusing indeed!

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Name: To: Muhammad (aka Akhter)
Date: Wednesday May 07, 2008
Time: 01:58:06 -0700

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We are trying to help a lady in distress, and all you can do is bad mouth Islam Watch. Have some heart toward other human beings man.

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Name: Observer
Date: Wednesday May 07, 2008
Time: 04:49:48 -0700

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This story should be on Islam Watch to make other women aware of the dangers of marrying muslim men. My advice to this lady is to leave him a.s.a.p before he inflicts physical harm to her and her children. Muslim men can get very violent. Just leave without any warning and take advice never to return as he might try to get you back with lies. Never trust a muslim man. Mo has done a good job on them.

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Name: Tanstaafl
Date: Wednesday May 07, 2008
Time: 07:37:02 -0700

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Get out now. Take the kids and walk away. Relocate as far away from this 7th century monster as you can. Don't worry about anything but saving your children and yourself. "Free your mind and the rest will follow"

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Name: Me
Date: Wednesday May 07, 2008
Time: 09:49:27 -0700

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Get out as fast as you can. Did you convert to Islam? Have you learnt a lesson that do not trust a muslim man? Spread the word.

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Name: To Mohammad
Date: Wednesday May 07, 2008
Time: 11:35:33 -0700

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Your shameful, ignorant and heartless comment is typical of someone who follows islam. You muslims may find the situation of an abused woman 'amusing indeed' but us non-muslims do not. This woman's story is very important and should serve as a warning to all women. The non-islamic free world does not dismiss, treat with disdain or mock any person who is in such a distressing situation.

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Name: kafir/infidel ( & Ex-communist ).- says ISLAM is plague and EBOLA virus of HUmanity
Date: Wednesday May 07, 2008
Time: 12:19:37 -0700

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This is a tragic story- the young American woman falling prey to an ISLAMIC predator and vulture. The moslem guy did this with great plan. The Moslem guy wants to convert the American woman and the two kids slowly into ISLAM - the work for ALLA , he is doing. First of all , each and every American girl must know that ISLAM is antichristian . ISLAM is copied from christianity, judaism and preislamic arab traditions. As such ISLAM is staunch enemy of christianity. vast majority of Americans and Europeans do not understand this simple fact. Not only christian woman, but each and every nonmoslem woman must look down all unholy ISLAMIC men with contempt and derision as warranted by their evil practices - discrimination, treating nonmoslems as sex objects and killing nonmoslems as kafirs and infidels , as dictated by their evil ,cruel unholy book QQURRAN. Now , the American young woman must try, using all her power to convert or change her ISLAMIC husband to leave ISLAM and join the civilized world.

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Name: Joe Kaffir
Date: Wednesday May 07, 2008
Time: 13:07:45 -0700

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Learning izlam 101 the hard way. Unfortunately Western and all "dar al harb" societies shoude mandate teaching the horror's of the three global domination pretenders: nazism, communism and izlam.

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Name: you should be ashamed of your so called perfect society!!!
Date: Wednesday May 07, 2008
Time: 15:58:30 -0700

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Living Together (a.k.a. cohabitation, or unmarried partner households): According to the 2000 Census, there are currently about 11 million people living with an unmarried partner in the U.S. This includes both same-sex and different-sex couples. - U.S. Census Bureau, 2000 (If this number doesn't match the number you found from another source, read How We Get Our Numbers, below). There are 9.7 million Americans living with an unmarried different-sex partner and 1.2 million American living with a same-sex partner. 11% of unmarried partners are same-sex couples. - U.S. Census Bureau, 2000 41% of American women ages 15-44 have cohabited (lived with an unmarried different-sex partner) at some point. This includes 9% of women ages 15-19, 38% of women ages 20-24, 49% of women ages 25-29, 51% of women ages 30-34, 50% of women ages 35-39, and 43% of women ages 40-44. - Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. "Cohabitation, Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage in the United States." Vital Health and Statistics Series 23, Number 22, Department of Health and Human Services, 2002. The number of unmarried couples living together increased 72% between 1990 and 2000. - U.S. Census Bureau, 2000 The number of unmarried couples living together has increased tenfold between 1960 and 2000. - U.S. Census Bureau, 2000. Living Alone As of 2000, the most common household type in the U.S. is people living alone. 27 million American households consist of a person living alone, compared to 25 million households with a husband, wife, and child. - Hobbs, Frank. "Examining American Household Composition: 1990 and 2000." U.S. Census Bureau, 2005. More than one in four American households consist of an adult living alone (25.8%). - Hobbs, Frank. "Examining American Household Composition: 1990 and 2000." U.S. Census Bureau, 2005. Unmarried childbearing and parenting: 41% of unmarried partner households have children under 18 living in them. - U.S. Census Bureau, America's Families and Living Arrangements 2000 33% of all births are to unmarried women. - National Center for Health Statistics, 2000 data (report released 2002) 41% of first births to unmarried women are actually babies born to cohabiting couples, not "single" women. - Bumpass, Larry and Lu, Hsien-Hen(2000). "Trends in Cohabitation and Implications for Children's Family Contexts in the United States." Population Studies, 54: 29-41. About two-fifths of children are expected to live in a cohabiting household at some point. - U.S. Census Bureau, 2000 More about unmarried different-sex couples: 55% of different-sex cohabitors get married within 5 years of moving in together. 40% break up within that same time period. About 10% remain in an unmarried relationship five years or longer. - Smock, Pamela (2000). "Cohabitation in the United States." Annual Review of Sociology. About 20% of all male-female cohabitors, or 1.6 million people, have been living together for more than five years. There is little known about these long-term unmarrieds because no research has focused on this subgroup. - Bumpass, Larry; Sweet, James; and Cherlin, Andrew (1991). "The Role of Cohabitation in Declining Rates of Marriage." Journal of Marriage and the Family. 53:913-27. - Calculation by the Alternatives to Marriage Project About 75% of cohabitors say they plan to marry their partners (about 6.2 million people). - Smock, Pamela (2000). "Cohabitation in the United States." Annual Review of Sociology. The majority of couples marrying today have lived together first (53% of women's first marriages are preceded by cohabitation). - Bumpass, Larry and Lu, Hsien-Hen (2000). "Trends in Cohabitation and Implications for Children's Family Contexts in the United States." Population Studies, 54: 29-41. In 1995, 24% of women ages 25-34 were cohabiting, compared to 22% of women ages 35-39, and 15% for women 40-44. In every age category, the percentages have increased since 1987. - Bumpass, Larry and Lu, Hsien-Hen (2000). "Trends in Cohabitation and Implications for Children's Family Contexts in the United States." Population Studies, 54: 29-

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Name:
Date: Wednesday May 07, 2008
Time: 16:16:16 -0700

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PURE SHOCK AFTER READING ABOVE POSTINGS, IS THIS TRUE? HOW CAN THESE PEOPLE BE SO CRUEL TO THEIR WOMEN FOLK? AND THEN THEY HAVE CHEEK TO TALK ABOUT ONE WHO MARRIED A MUSLIM AND THE MARRIAGE DID NOT WORK OUT, WHY ON EARTH THEY ARE NOT BOTHERED ABOUT ALL THE OTHERS? SHAME ON YOU ,SHAME.

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Name: To 'the one' ashamed of American society...
Date: Wednesday May 07, 2008
Time: 20:42:45 -0700

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You are advocating barbarity (as committed in Islamic countries) to people, who want to live their life as they want without harming or bothering others. Yet, howsoever imperfect American society may be, undoubtedly 99% Muslims from most Islamic countries will be on a 'mad rush' towards America, if opened borders to them. On the contrary, very few will take it up, if Islamic countries opens their borders to Americans.

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Name: GET THE HELL OUT!
Date: Wednesday May 07, 2008
Time: 21:45:25 -0700

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If you are still in America, you can get out - and you'd better do it now, because these evil bastards are trying to make the whole world into Saudi Arabia. And then EVERYONE will be enslaved under Islam. Do as these folks have suggested. Get yourself to a domestic violence center and start the divorce proceedings. Call your family, get some financial help. Move away and hide, start self-defense classes. Get a restraining order against him. Whatever it takes. And to the rest of the women of the world - DO NOT MARRY A MUSLIM MAN! DO NOT EVEN DATE A MUSLIM MAN! That will be one way to stop this disease from spreading!

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Name: Sanjay
Date: Wednesday May 07, 2008
Time: 21:58:01 -0700

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Hindu girl married to muslim , though her family was against it. After 2 years muslim husband remarries to his attractive cousin. Leaving his first wife as destitute. She narrates her plight to her brother , he takes away his sister secretly when her husband is away to distance city , gets her house on rent & job to sustain her & kids.She along with kids re-convert herself to Hindusim.

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Name: DH
Date: Thursday May 08, 2008
Time: 03:57:41 -0700

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Perhaps this woman would not now be in this situation if she had thought with her head rather than further down her anatomy!

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Name: balam
Date: Thursday May 08, 2008
Time: 04:01:48 -0700

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It was heartbreaking to read the misfortune of this non-muslim American woman.She is a mature woman,and would have been well aware of help she could have sought.The muslim criminal so called husband should be made to pay for mental and physical cruelty and deported out of U.S.A.This should be an eye opener for other non-muslim women that the could trust the most poisonous SNAKE in their bed-room,but not a mohammadan,who are nothing but snakes full of deadly venom.One should have no pity or compassion for these reptiles in human form.The non-muslims who live among the muslims know them better and never trust them.This american lady should get rid of this despicable Pagan muslim for good. i hope this story opens the eyes of other non-muslim women before they they fall into the trap of Islam.These rabied dogs in the form of mohammad and Akhter should only be despised for their lack of humainty,which their prophet also lacked.

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Name: AL Khadir
Date: Thursday May 08, 2008
Time: 10:52:30 -0700

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I am a Muslim married to a non-muslim. Not only does my wife work (Teacher) but she also drives and has total freedom she would have with any civil man. Frankly thew ingorance of this website is appartent to any free-thinking human being Muslim or non-Muslim. You people need to get an education.

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Name: To : AL Khadir From: Ibn Kammuna
Date: Thursday May 08, 2008
Time: 13:45:38 -0700

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Dear Sir, Greetings Many of the editors and writers here have graduate degrees (PhDs..and other). From what you wrote, it is apparent that you do not know what true Islam is. There are researchers in this site and on the other Website "FaithFreedomInternational" who spend hundreds of hours researching the Qur'an, the Hadith and the history of Islam. Here are a couple of names. Check out their work: Ali Sina, Abul Kasem, M A Khan, Mumin Saleh. There are many good researchers here. Those are just few. Check them out brother. You'll be glad you did. Peace

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Name: Al i agree with you, look what they do to their women, heartless Bastards!!!!
Date: Thursday May 08, 2008
Time: 13:50:43 -0700

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Wife Beating: There is nothing new about wife beating. It has always happened, everywhere. Often it is accepted as a natural if regrettable part of woman's status as her husband's property. Throughout history unlucky women have been subjected to the whims and brutality of their husbands. The colloquial phrase "rule of thumb" is supposedly derived from the ancient right of a husband to discipline his wife with a rod "no thicker than his thumb." In the U.S. the statistics reflect no unprecedented epidemic of domestic violence, but only a quite recent effort to collect figures—often inexact, but startling even when allowances are made for error—on what has always existed: ¶Nearly 6 million wives will be abused* by their husbands in any one year. ¶ Some 2,000 to 4,000 women are beaten to death annually. ¶ The nation's police spend one-third of their time responding to domestic-violence calls. ¶ Battery is the single major cause of injury to women, more significant than auto accidents, rapes or muggings. What is new is that in the U.S. wife beating is no longer widely accepted as an inevitable and private matter. The change in attitude, while far from complete, has come about in the past ten to 15 years as part of the profound transformation of ideas about the roles and rights of women in society. In cities and states scattered across the country, legal structures and social service networks, prompted by grass-roots women's organizations, have begun to redefine spouse abuse as a violation of the victim's civil rights and a criminal act of assault subject to the same punishments as other acts of violence. Marital abuse has been called "the silent crime." Bringing it out into the open by talking about it is the first step toward a solution. But for most people, including even the victim and the abuser, the almost reflex-like response to the subject is to deny that such abuse exists. In fact, however, a 1979 FBI report stated that 40% of women killed were murdered by their partners, and 10% of men by theirs. (Many of the women acted in self-defense.) When it comes to squabbling around the house, women give as good as they get. But a domestic spat is not battering, which involves a pattern of escalating abuse in a situation from which the victim feels she cannot escape. Because they are usually physically stronger than their wives, men are less likely to be battered; for reasons of pride, they are also far less likely to report it. Sociologist Murray Straus, an expert on family violence, nonetheless estimates that each year 282,000 men are beaten by their wives.

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Name: fatma
Date: Thursday May 08, 2008
Time: 13:58:11 -0700

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i am a married muslim woman, and i have a total feedom my husband(muslim man) respecs me and we both listen to each other. i have friends and family also my job, just like a reglare person. So people don't blame an unsuccessful relationship on all muslim man. Some muslim man are amazing. But just like all humans their are some bad and some good. and i hope this lady finds some help quick!!!!!

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Name: Mohammad
Date: Thursday May 08, 2008
Time: 15:32:10 -0700

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Why don't you guys cool down. I am not being insensitive to this woman's story. I just don't see the reason for it being published here. It is absurd to suggest that all Muslim women are being treated like her or that Islam suggests such treatments. Why are you all now so worried about wives of Muslims while many women in the US are suffering worse than this by your own people. Apparantly this lady herself was married before and was left by her husband with two children. Do you know how many working single moms are out there? And you dare to criticize Muslims for how they treat their women? Take the case of wives of men in the military who are fighting in Iraq. Muslims 1400 years ago had a limit for serving in the army for married men: 3 months. And after that they would return to their families to take a break. This is how Islam cares about women and this is how you treat the best of your women that is the wives of your soldiers.

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Name: balam to Al Khadir
Date: Thursday May 08, 2008
Time: 18:29:18 -0700

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Why dont you let your non-muslim wife write on this web site how wonderful Islam was and how humanely she was being treated.Let us hear from the horses mouth.You are a typical Muslim whose word can never be trusted.Mohammad described the place of a woman quite vividly in the Quran.He never suckled the breast of his mother,but given away to be brought up by a beduine woman,so that she could carry on her business what ever it was.Mohammad never forgave her for that and had a very low opinion for women.Saudi-Arabia is the heart and shining example of Islam.Look at the human rights of Muslim women there.Mohaammad called women as VIGINA ,only good for one thing day and night,these poor walking VIGINAS.How do these shameless muslims tolerate their mothers,sisters and daughters called Viginas and deficient in intellect beside other things in Mohammadanism.Wake up you Mohammadans and try to open your blind eyes.

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Name: Abdul Darwish
Date: Thursday May 08, 2008
Time: 19:30:52 -0700

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The women is married to a muslim man. She herself does not say that she is muslim. The children are not his. She can leave on her own accord. i myself am muslim. My wife has a car which she can use anytime. She chooses not to work however has in the past and may again (if she chooses) in the future. We have a social life in between praying 5 times a day. This is not a "islam" issue. Society is full of people who abuse others. Look at the catholic church for instance. Need I say more?

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Name:
Date: Friday May 09, 2008
Time: 07:10:07 -0700

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dear, sister,fatma,and Al, there is no need to explain about the rights and wrongs, this website and ffi have but one track mind,and that is to redicules muslims,and islam no matter what,so please let them bark.

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Name: Challenge to all infidels from Akhter
Date: Friday May 09, 2008
Time: 09:05:05 -0700

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Can you write a verse like 4.34 "if you fear disobedience from your wife, beat her".

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Name: kafir/infidel ( & Ex-communist ).- says ISLAM is plague and EBOLA virus of HUmanity
Date: Friday May 09, 2008
Time: 12:16:32 -0700

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To MO_HAM_MAD, Fatma, AL Khadir, Abdul Darwish and other Jihadists/ISLAMISTS slavery perpetrators . How can you be so cruel,heartless,evil? It is all dictated by your QQURRAN . You ask for it . Your ISLAM/ISLAMIC societies are closed, primitive,barbaric ,cruel,evil and bloodthirsty killing type. We dont need your religion or ISLAMIC societies . Becoz they are dark and extremely evil. what is not understandable to you? You say you are different , your religion is different, your culture (ISLAMIC which is demonic ,selfish,extremely evil,taking only never giving or doing anything good to nonmoslems. Look at your ISLAMIC countries - blood suckers. ISLAMIC societies( ISLAMIC countries = terror,hatefilled,discriminatory,killing nonmoslems,persecution of nonmoslems . ) Tell us what is good about QQURRAN or your ISLAM/ISLAMIC society. We are building most progressive,liberal,humanistic,open,inclusive,freedom,peace loving , societies with equality,equal laws, eqaulity of women, equality of all humans, respect to children , equality of all religions . But where as the Moslems/ISLAMISTS /ISLAMIC societies are making this world a hell hole, with cruelty,terror,discrimination,inequality,fear, inequality of women ,exclusivist, hatred for all nonmoslems. ISLAM/ISLAMISTS/ QQURRAN/ MO promote slavery, treating woman as sex robots . ISLAM and ISLAMIC societies are breeding grounds for terror,hatred,fear,killings,fascism,utter discrimination, extreme cruelty. ISLAM/ISLAMISTS /Mujahideens want to take all into darkness, kill all nonbelievers. Where as we are building a world with peace,democracy,freedom,progress and prosperity. We want to liberate you also from the shackles, slavery, darkness that ISLAM/ QQURRAN made you. We want to flush ISLAM/QQURRAN/ MO into sewage .

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Name: Aisha
Date: Friday May 09, 2008
Time: 16:34:14 -0700

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your hubby:controller/manipulator/brain washed.his religion:the fuel to add insult to injuries..these are deadly combinations w..get hold of a sleeping tablet and put it in his coffee...when he deeply sleeps run away..

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Name: Salma
Date: Saturday May 10, 2008
Time: 12:23:11 -0700

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This sounds too fake, why dont you go to a shelter or something. why do u take it. this story ia all but familiar to me, this is just some story to make Muslims look bad. I am a Muslim and no Muslim man i have ever known in my family beat his wife. wife beating has nothing to do with Islam. The guy has problems and was probably brought up that way. Didn't something go through ur head before you married this idiot, didn't something feel wrong. I pity you, but i feel esp. sorry for the children. Dont blame Islam for your wrong decisions in life. Islam forbids beating woman and demands her rights, your husband is just ignorant and so are you for marring him. He didnt make you walk down the Isle. This realy has nothing to do with Islam . How have you been quite for so long, your not alone...please get the kids away, but i think your just enjoying the attention.

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Name: not an american
Date: Sunday May 11, 2008
Time: 04:02:42 -0700

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why did you marry this man??? why????

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